We'll Get By With a Little Help from Our Friends


This past week gave me a great real-time picture of something we all need, especially when we're on a journey. Whether that journey is our health, a life transition, a loss, or a new adventure…. We all need people who we know will have our backs and cheer us on!

A sweet friend of mine and her family suffered a crisis, and it will forever leave the landscape of her and her kids’ lives changed. What I know, is that this woman is an amazing powerhouse of raw “kick butt and take names” kind of energy. But she also has that need we all have… the need to know we can trust and depend on the people that we love.

My family and others in our sphere had the opportunity to circle around this precious momma and her babies. And you know what I saw?  POWER.  There is power in support. There is power in community. There is power in agreement. Because, what you agree with, you’ll buy into.

With support from friends (and not the kind who just drop in to see what all the fuss is about), she and her kids are jumping over this hurdle life has suddenly put in their way.

Almost anything that requires overcoming, requires a bit of encouragement. But it’s important to pay close attention to the type of encouragement we’re getting.... sometimes, "encouragement" sounds a whole lot like a pity-party and It’s SO DARN EASY to fall into the trap of negativity and nay-saying. Don’t you know, when someone's done you wrong, it’s wayeasier to be with people who are content to just throw shade and all kinds of hate?

Or, how easy is it to be with people who will let us just stay in our pit? Maybe even help us find reasons WHY we can’t move on, why we can’t save money, why we can’t lose weight… whatever the “it” is that we’re dealing with, they help us stay there and even invent new ways for us to get comfortable.

ENOUGH of that!

It’s time to get the right people, who will say the right things in our lives! Throw out the toxic junk (that means people 😊). Invite the life-speaking, life-giving people in!

A 2006 study of 3,000 women with breast cancer (http://ascopubs.org/doi/full/10.1200/jco.2005.04.2846) found that those without close friends were four times as likely to succumb to their illness. Social support had a profound impact on the women’s ability to survive and thrive through one of the toughest challenges of their lives! Let’s take that to a non-gender, non-illness specific stat… people with a healthy circle of friends are 50% more likely to live longer (happify™)!

And let me just say… I don’t think it matters how MANY friends we have. I think it matters what the quality of the friendship is.  A quality friend not only believe the best for you, but they SPEAK the best into you and give you something POSITIVE to agree with. Not to mention, they’ll have your back in a pinch and be willing to walk through hell with you when needed.

So, take inventory of your support system today. If you have some energy-drainers hanging around, it may be time de-friend a few people!

Thriving With You,